I dont go to office everyday; perhaps only twice a week or less. Thus when I do, I embrace conversation with hubby along our way.
Like last Monday.
We were giggling as we passed by Pegadaian, remembering those hard days when we were out of money and I have to mortgage a set of gold jewelry given by my mom in law as a present for delivering her first grand daughter, to meet ends. The next 2 months I had to sell that heart-shaped box of jewelry set worth 6mio at that time, to pay credit card that we used to buy milk, diapers, pay loans, insurance, maid’s salary, etc. I remember at that time my maid literally has much more money than I had. We just had a newborn baby and took credit from bank to buy a house. My hubby didn’t get salary for 6 months working in a startup recommended by.. forget it. Crazy silly days.
I didn’t share the problem with anyone else. I thought it’s gonna be our forever secret. Until one day as he became a speaker for an event held by Gramedia, in front of 300 audiences he revealed: “Saya pernah kerja 6 bulan nggak digaji sama sekali. Padahal baru punya anak pertama. Istri saya yang menafkahi keluarga.” And the other day, his partner who’s also my friend asked him in front of me: “Nat, Nuniek matre nggak?” He retold the story above and added, “Kalo matre dia gak bakal kawin sama gue, gaji gue waktu married gak sampe setengah gaji dia.”
Financial problem is one of top 3 causes of divorce, as many research show. So if you’re marrying someone because of his/her money, I suppose you are prepared for a divorce once s/he is broke. Unless you have evilish plan: marry to rob your partner’s money. Speaking of which, that wouldn’t make your life easy, left alone happy.