Si kk sering bikin keki mommy karena suka cari barang2 yg dia lupa taro di mana. Masalahnya kalo belum ketemu dia bakal uring2an, dan ga jarang adiknya jadi sasaran.
Kayak sebelum tidur tadi. Dia kelilingan cari quill buatannya yg entah dia taro di mana. Cuma dia yg pegang benda itu, so we really have no clue where it is.
Dulu, aku cenderung bersikap reaktif dan terpancing emosinya. Aku bisa lebih jengkel melihat dia jengkel. Setelah belajar konseling, aku sudah lebih bisa mengantisipasi dan mengatasi keadaannya.
Begini caranya…
Pertama, validasi feelingnya.
Kedua, dengarkan keluhannya. Ketiga, tawarkan solusinya.
Dan begini tadi percakapannya…
“Mom, I can’t sleep when I’m angry”
“Why are you angry?”
“Because I can’t find my quill”
“Are you angry to yourself because you can’t find your quill?”
“Yes!”
“I see. Don’t be too hard on yourself, if you can’t find it now, you can look for it again tomorrow. Do you need to recharge?” (Recharge means a warm hug to refill our love bucket)
“Yes!!” (She came to hug me tight)
“Do you remember when mommy was angry to you? How do tou feel?”
“Yes. I feel sad”
“Now when you’re angry to yourself, then you must be double sad. First you’re sad because you’re angry, second you’re sad because yourself is angry to you. Don’t punish yourself, ok dear?”
“Okay mommy, thanks for calming me down, I feel much better now”
“Good, now let’s go to sleep”
And she’s sleeping peacefully.
#parentips #lifewithkids #MnV – Read on Path.