Getting Over Disappointment In a Relationship

Getting Over Disappointment In a Relationship

“It is impossible to be defensive and empathic at the same time”

“To experience the next moment with a person as a new moment—and therefore open to curiosity, surprise, even revelation—is the heart of love.”

“Romantic love is beautiful, but no matter how full the moon that first night, no matter how many willows are weeping and birds singing your song, you can’t build years of relationship on that lovely, fragile foundation alone. Everything I’ve learned from my work with people disappointed in love points to this conclusion: A mature relationship doesn’t begin until after disappointment.”